It can be scary and uncomfortable to say we’re sorry.  To own up to the fact that perhaps we did something less than stellar and that it negatively impacted someone we care for. We want to just brush it under the rug.  To have it let go.  To not have to meet and experience the [...]

For most of us, there’s a state of stress or distress we’ve come to call normal.  A humming of the cells. A vibration of the body.  A rant in the mind that undermines our sense of well-being and perpetrates great suffering. This may have begun as early as the womb, if our mothers were under [...]

Most of us have been taught that love is a commodity. Something someone either has for us or not. Something that can either be given or taken away, won or lost. Thus, we become dependent on an ‘other’ to make us feel happy and secure. But any dependency can be fraught with distress and danger, [...]

Sometimes we get lost. In the swirl and whirl of our thoughts. In the energy of our emotions. So lost, we can find ourselves angry, hurt, terrified, bewildered, or worried and out of time, in a memory we React to as if it were real in this very moment, or a prediction of a future [...]

What if the key to becoming ‘expecting’, was learning to practice Positive Expectancy?
None of us knows what’s going to happen next, nor what the unfoldment of perfect timing might be. But, since thoughts have power, the most helpful thing you can do is begin to replace your negative thoughts and beliefs with positive actions and intentions, and cultivate your capacity to be hopeful and have faith.

Life is stressful, and sometimes we need to take a break to re-group and self-soothe so we don’t become harmful to ourselves or others. A “time-out” is a guaranteed method for stopping the cycle of addictive, self-destructive behavior toward oneself, or destructive, violent behavior toward another. All is takes is conscientious effort to work with [...]

Diets don’t work. It would be great if they did. If diets worked, almost everyone with a ‘weight problem’ would have handled it by now. Because dieting is easy. Just change what you eat for a while, and presto!, the weight melts off and the body you’ve been dreaming of is yours! But diets don’t [...]

Life is challenging. We all know that. What we don’t often know is how to manage our reactions to everyday stressors. And, in general, it is those reactions that tend to make things feel bigger and harder, or smaller and more manageable. Here are a few suggestions that might be helpful in soothing your anxiety, [...]

I go to the dentist today. For him to look at my rickety jaw. The jaw that clicks and moans, and that long ago popped itself out of its bony cradle, and now rubs itself the wrong way, making crooked again teeth that were once tamed into straight, proper rows by orthodontia. I watch as [...]

Perception is a quirky thing. Because, sometimes, lurking in the not-too-hidden recesses of our minds, is a part of us that wants to keep us in pain, shame, hopelessness. And it often it does this by lying to us. Even in the face of evidence to the contrary. And we believe . . . We [...]