On Listening and Being Heard

“Listening looks easy, but it’s not simple. Every head is a world.” Cuban proverb   It’s a relief when we know someone has really heard and ‘gotten’ us. But most of us, especially in heated situations, aren’t really very good listeners. We don’t really...

Resolving Conflict–the Art of Apology

It can be scary and uncomfortable to say we’re sorry.  To own up to the fact that perhaps we did something less than stellar and that it negatively impacted someone we care for. We want to just brush it under the rug.  To have it let go.  To not have to meet and...

Being In Love Now

Most of us have been taught that love is a commodity. Something someone either has for us or not. Something that can either be given or taken away, won or lost. Thus, we become dependent on an ‘other’ to make us feel happy and secure. But any dependency can be fraught...

Narrating The Present–Being In The Now

Sometimes we get lost. In the swirl and whirl of our thoughts. In the energy of our emotions. So lost, we can find ourselves angry, hurt, terrified, bewildered, or worried and out of time, in a memory we React to as if it were real in this very moment, or a prediction...

Diets Don’t Work!

Diets don’t work. It would be great if they did. If diets worked, almost everyone with a ‘weight problem’ would have handled it by now. Because dieting is easy. Just change what you eat for a while, and presto!, the weight melts off and the body you’ve been dreaming...

Awakening Grace

I go to the dentist today. For him to look at my rickety jaw. The jaw that clicks and moans, and that long ago popped itself out of its bony cradle, and now rubs itself the wrong way, making crooked again teeth that were once tamed into straight, proper rows by...